No matter which religion or cultural background you come from, keeping your significant other happy is a must. Maintaining a cordial relationship helps keep balance in your day-to-day life, provides an outlet for support and communication, and even offers joy and encouragement as you navigate through your personal and professional lives. However, simply assuming you’ll be able to keep someone happy is much different from actually doing it.
When addressing how to make sure your Jewish girlfriend is content throughout your dating efforts, there will be some things you’ll need to consider in order to make sure your expressions of love and affection come across in a genuine manner. Whether verbal or physical, emotional or unspoken, these validations and compliments can be key to sustaining a symbiotic relationship with the person you love.
The Science of Compliments
The significance of compliments in a blossoming relationship cannot be understated because oftentimes, it’s this stimulation that releases dopamine and provides consolation in your partner’s life. The art of complimenting someone involves pointing out attributes or actions that specifically impacted you or someone else personally and can be either verbal or non-verbal. It’s this genuine acknowledgment in response to their behavior that informs them that they are individually worthy of praise, and delivering these sentiments at the proper time and with the right delivery is equally crucial. But while you may feel compelled to issue compliments to your significant other constantly, it can actually lessen the importance when they’re not as authentic or seem forced.
Cultural Expressions of Love
It may be obvious on its face, but the differing backgrounds and cultures each person comes from often dictate the expressions of love in their relationship. This is certainly the case for Jewish singles as well because there are many different branches of Judaism that may take differing approaches depending on their specific traditional dating habits. It’s important to be open and accepting of the differences in beliefs, and if your values don’t directly align, it’s perfectly okay to be honest and express what essential characteristics matter most to you in a relationship.
While respecting cultural boundaries and even navigating cross-cultural relationships, there are still common love languages that all people tend to share regardless of race or religion. These include words of affirmation, quality time, and physical touch, among others, according to the 5 love languages on the subject by Gary Chapman. The reciprocation of these actions, while also actively performing self-assessments to match your partner’s wants and needs, will help you build a stronger bond. And when you’re able to relate through cultural similarities between your families, a shared lifestyle practice that feels routine helps you feel even more comfortable.
The Role of Family in Relationships
Our familial upbringing has a lot to do with the way we approach relationships, ranging from the beliefs and values we carry to the dynamic in which they play a part in the dating process for each individual. Everyone knows the difference between a strict and conservative household versus one that is less traditional and more fluid. Reaching a common understanding of what’s appropriate or feasible without causing turmoil is critical before becoming too serious because understanding family constraints will better help you navigate your respective situation. Even attachment behaviors like insecurity or clinginess can often stem from personal experiences, so understanding this family dynamic is vital.
The Balance of Words and Actions
Facilitating happiness through communication and conduct requires careful balance or at least an understanding of what validations your partner wants or expects. Over time, both you and your Jewish girlfriend will be required to learn about each other’s tendencies and how to approach various situations that aren’t always predictable. It’s these decisive moments that will forge a meaningful connection between you both in relation to your real-life experiences, preparing you for whatever the future may hold.
Building Trust Through Communication
We’ve all heard the phrase “actions speak louder than words,” and that definitely bodes true over time when dating. Sure, you can hope to say all the right things at the moment or offer lofty promises, but it’s making good on these pledges that show your partner how much you truly care to keep your word. When giving compliments, you want to make sure they’re authentic and not out of touch, and when it comes to trust, being able to exhibit honesty and have open communication or practice conflict resolution are ways you can build stronger confidence in one another.
The Art of Listening in Relationships
Listening is something we can all admittedly get better at, because without showing an earnest willingness to hear someone’s perspective, how can we expect them to show us the same empathy? If you’re actively listening, you’re giving your full attention to the other person and acknowledging what they have to say without interrupting. When you lend your ears and mind to their concerns or enthusiasm, it shows how much you care about what they have to say. At the moment, it can be exactly what the other person needs to hear from the person they’re dating.
Cultural Misunderstandings in Relationships
It’s certainly easy to accidentally or unintentionally get into cultural mishaps when dating in cross-cultural relationships or even in those where the traditions vary. Some dating practices, signs of affection, or even trivial things like backgrounds and looks can draw skepticism from elders or other notable figures, but open dialogue and constructive conversations can help bridge any gaps and result in a more welcoming environment where everyone can learn and grow together.
The Role of Religion in Romantic Expressions
Judaism and religion in general often play a significant role in relationships, and if you’re hoping to bring home a Jewish girlfriend to a family with similar values, you’re going to have a much easier time than expecting to court her without any Jewish background of your own. However, with a lot more blending of cultures and religions, it’s no longer taboo to have interfaith relationships or religiously diverse families, and if you’re willing to compromise over differences or agree to convert to practicing a faith such as Judaism, it’s important to be genuine and open about your intentions and spiritual motivations. Remember, being disingenuous about religion is often considered blasphemous and can be detrimental to any further development.
The Impact of Validation
Keeping your Jewish lady happy is more than just walking the walk; it’s also talking the talk. We love to hear how we make you happy and that you can’t get enough of us … even if you wish we would just stop bugging you.
The following are seven things you should tell your Jewish girlfriend each day – or frequently, so we don’t suspect that you’re trying to kiss our tushes a little too much. These are the things that will keep her happy because, as they say, happy wife … er, happy girlfriend, happy life.
1. She’s Smart
Yes, please! Tell us we are smart, and don’t just throw the words out randomly. Give us proof. Show us your smarts while you prove to us using researched facts and proof that you truly we believe we are smart. We love when you value our intelligence but even more so, we love when you tell us that you do.
2. She’s Got Chutzpah
Jewish women tend to take risks, go with our gut, lead with our heart and reach our goals. So hearing from you, our favorite guy, that you think we’ve got chutzpah is one of the best compliments we can receive.
3. She’s Hardworking
When we put in the hours and work hard, hearing you acknowledge it makes us really happy. Take that moment to tell us when we are breaking a sweat (either literally or figuratively) that you see and appreciate our efforts.
4. She’s Got An Opinion (And You Want It)
She’s not afraid to speak her mind, and you love her for it. Tell her you value what she thinks and want her to weigh in. It means to much to know that what we think and say matters to you.
5. She’s Sexy And Beautiful
Yes, we want to hear you find us sexually appealing. We may feel bloated, agitated, tired and stressed, but we want to know that in your eyes, we are always beautiful and wanted – even when we’re just sporting our sweats and a messy bun at home.
6. She Puts The Butter On Your Matzo
Is your lady the applesauce on your latke? We want to know that in many ways, we are a part of what makes your life better each day and add a little sparkle to your existence. Tell us that things are better because we’re around, even when things are really rotten and awful.
7. She’s Liked By Your Parents
It’s no fun thinking that your boyfriend’s mom and dad don’t like you. Whether it’s just dad, just mom or both of them, remind your girlfriend that your parents find her pretty damn awesome. Knowing that we have the thumbs up from your family makes us feel like we really belong in your life, and that’s a wonderful thing.
Looking to keep a smile on your girlfriend’s face? Don’t just assume she knows how much she means to you. Tell her these things regularly and you’ll find that you two can grow closer than ever.
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