When you’re dating, especially online dating, most people have a long list of qualities they’re looking for in a partner. You want someone perfect – or pretty close to perfect. However, that search for perfection means you may not be open-minded or adventurous when it comes to meeting someone new. Have you ever thought about all the great people out there who aren’t everything on your list? Your list may actually be holding you back from true love. Here are a few tips to help you lose your list, date more, and, hopefully, find love!
1. Give People A Chance
Your soul mate could be (and hopefully is!) a wonderful person who is kind, caring, compassionate, and perfect for you. But if you have a specific checklist in mind, and they aren’t everything on it, you won’t ever meet them. Step out of your comfort zone and give someone new a chance.
2. Be More Open-Minded
Successful dating is all about being open-minded. If you gave up your list, you would date more – in fact, a lot more. I’m not suggesting you should lower your standards and meet someone who repulses you. However, it’s not reasonable to expect your partner to be perfect. You have to be realistic with your expectations. You could be passing up on someone fabulous because they don’t match your list to a tee. Try something new and go out with someone you wouldn’t normally be open to dating.
3. Say Bye Bye to Your Checklist
Banish that checklist of yours that is limiting your dating life. When you have a list of specific qualities you’re looking for in a partner, you aren’t open to dating different kinds of people. Your soul mate could have 8 out of 10 qualities you want in someone, but if you don’t eliminate your checklist, you won’t be giving yourself an opportunity to meet them!
Remember, by meeting new people, you’re opening yourself up to new love!
Carly Spindel is a contributor to JDATE. See more of Carly Spindel's articles here.
