In a recent Topic of the Week, we posed a question to JDate’s Message Boarders about just how much personal income matters when it comes to who they choose to date and JDaters responded with a wide variety of opinions. Here’s the top ten list of our favorite responses.
10. “Attitudes toward spending and saving are important in a marriage and have an effect on a relationship. But it’s not usually the case that I would know whether someone lives within or beyond her means before I actually have a date with her. So that means to me that it doesn’t affect who I choose to date, only who I would maintain a relationship with.”
– MusicMichael, 44M, New York, New York
9. “I am incredibly uncomfortable dating guys with tons of cash. I like to do things for myself and I don’t want to look like a ‘mooch’ or become dependent on them and their flow. Plus, I have a thrifty poor folk mind set – I just can’t be those who throw it around like they have their own cash tree in their backyard. It just makes me really uncomfortable. So yes, money does affect who you date.”
– Zowie13, 29F, Saint Paul, Minnesota
8. “On the whole, income is not what matters; it’s the DEBT!”
– Presschick, 44F, Fullerton, CA
7. “If you’re dating for fun – 100% Yes. If you dating for marriage – 100% NO…You should know what you want and don’t be shy to tell your potential mate about kosher food, Shabbat, torah and….How much money do you need???”
– BoruchChaim, 39M, Brooklyn, NY
6. “Men who find it important to support themselves and grow within their chosen fields are of interest to me rather than men in dead end jobs/careers.”
– Stargrrrrl, 39F, West Orange, NJ
5. “I am looking for a rich older woman near death.”
– FitnessGuy005, 32M, San Diego, CA
4. “For a long time it made no difference to me, but I found after trying many times…Men don’t like women who make more money than they do.”
– chim9, 35F, Newton, MA
3. “If you were meant to be together and are soul mates, it should not really make much difference, rich or poor, as long as you have a roof over your head and can spend time together, that is all that matters. Happiness comes from inside, money cannot buy love!”
– PersiancutieBCD2, 51F, Brea, California
2. “Income (money) vs. outcome (of the date). I choose to only be affected by the outcome.”
– RhythmNBlues501, 28M, Bronx, NY
1. “Sure, if I don’t have income, I don’t date.”
– IFDeeVa, 59F, Houston, TX
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