I don’t know about all of you, but once upon a time New Year’s Eve and the month of January wasn’t exactly the greatest time of year for me. In fact, as a guy who once struggled more than anyone with women, it was downright emotionally crippling, watching all the happy couples kiss as I stood against a corner wondering why I was alone.
New Year’s Eve was nothing but a reminder of the fact that I was single, unhappy, and desperately wanted some type of female connection. And while I spent most of my time back then in self pity and feeling bad for myself, I should have been self-reflecting and figuring out, “What was I doing wrong?”
The New Year should not be a time of feeling bad about oneself. It should be a time of optimism and hope when it comes to online dating. Think of the month of January as a completely fresh slate. When it comes to online dating, sometimes we just need that symbolic fresh start to get things moving in the right direction again.
With that said, let’s make a few New Year’s resolutions that will help carry us into the New Year with success.
1. Write a new profile.
A new profile is key to having a fresh start. Allow me to provide an example. The other day a friend of mine asked me to re-write his profile in a way that would attract more women. After re-writing his profile his responses literally tripled. In addition, women were messaging him first which was barely ever happening in the past. Why? Humor, humor, and more humor. Show that you are funny, and you will be showing your dates that you are more than just another online dater. The fear of going on a boring date will evaporate from their minds and you will be in prime position to jump to the head of the line.
2. Put up some new pictures.
Women see the same boring pictures over and over. Dust off the old photo album and get some good ones up that create controversy and interest. You wouldn’t believe how the rate my messages shot the roof just by adding a picture of me and my dog doing something funny together. Give women a good reason to message you through your pictures and you would be amazed at the reactions you will get.
3. Sort through old emails.
Sorting through old emails is critical to gaining a better understanding of what works and what doesn’t work. Look at all your emails that enticed a response over the past year.
Which ones were effective? Which weren’t? Are you getting first responses, but failing to close on phone numbers?
Study where you fell off and where things worked out. There is an art to online dating and the pacing of emails. We have to engage from start to finish. Believe it or not, most strategies that both work and fail are similar with all women.
4. Start Exercising and Eating Healthier.
Let me be extra clear on this one. Those who know my teachings are well aware that looks are not critical to attracting women. In my opinion there are ten highly effective ways to attract women that have nothing to do with looks.
However, I am a big advocate of feeling mentally healthy. Exercising and eating right will increase your mental health and raise confidence levels.
We can study all we want how to be expert online daters, but without that confidence and true belief in ourselves, our goals will never come to fruition.
5. Take on a new hobby or two.
When it comes down to it, women want a man that is interesting above all. If our lives are nothing but the ordinary: work, sleep, work, rinse, wash, repeat, we really don’t have much to talk about and won’t be that interesting. Find something that you are passionate about, take on a new hobby, and keep rounding yourself out as a person this New Year. Women will see this and love it.
Joshua Pompey provides online dating advice to men all over the world and has written for some of the biggest publications out there. For tons more free online dating advice for men, click how to pick up girls online and sign up for your free profile evaluation today from Joshua Pompey’s expert profile writing staff!
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