Is Your Appearance Sending The Wrong Signals?

Every now and then, the boys and I like to venture out and pick up women in “real life.” Sometimes I just can’t help but laugh when I overhear women telling my friends how cute or sexy they are. The reason I laugh is because some of the guys I hang around are far from the great looking (sorry boys, I owe you a round)! These guys are short (5’5’’), skinny (stick-figure style), pale (almost sickly), you get the idea. Still, women are not mocking them when they are calling them sexy. They actually think these guys are attractive.

Why? Because clothes and grooming habits can have a tremendous effect on a person’s overall appearance. Any man can make himself desirable to women by putting together the right appearance. A well-put together look shows:

• Individuality
• Signs of social awareness
• Power
• Confidence
• The ability to take care of oneself, as well as others
• And so much more

The above examples are all factors that contribute to women feeling an attraction towards men.  In my opinion, women typically feel attraction towards men mainly due to our personality traits, not our looks. The good news is, all of this can be translated to the online dating world through the photos we choose to upload on our online profiles. What this means for you is that you need to show your internal personality through your pictures in order to help the emails you send stand a chance!

Fashion and grooming are just one of many, many ways to achieve sex appeal in your pictures (the rest will have to wait for another time)! If we put together the right appearance (an appearance that hits on the qualities women are attracted to), then the look you’re born with really isn’t all that important.

But what happens if we not only don’t take advantage of the benefits our pictures could provide, but we also completely ignore our appearance by wearing outdated clothes and grooming less often than we should? Something as simple as a poorly-trimmed beard may cause women to think:

• We are lazy
• We can’t take care of ourselves (and consequently won’t be able to take care of them one day)
• We might lack ambition in life
• We are socially unaware
• We are bad at making choices

Obviously all of these thoughts may not be conscious, or at the forefront of a woman’s mind when looking at your pictures, but these are still the signals you are sending about yourself.

We must ultimately remember, men are very lucky. We have many ways to make ourselves extremely attractive to women… if we play our hand correctly. Take advantage of these assets, or you will be missing out loads of opportunities.