Even if you’ve gone on plenty in the past, first dates can lead to some serious nerves. If you’re one of those people who feels easy and breezy on those initial dates, this post is not for you. But for the rest of us, finding ways to tame our anxiety before meeting up with a match takes some effort. Fortunately, we’ve rounded up some of the best methods for calming your first date jitters:
1. Get Moving
Exercise boosts your endorphins, giving you natural feel-good vibes on your way to your first date. So if you can squeeze in a workout, by all means go for it. No time to hit the gym? Blast some of your favorite upbeat tunes as you’re getting ready. Dance out some of that nervous energy while getting your spirits high.
2. Hang Out With A Friend
Even if you’ll be spending the next few hours with your date, that doesn’t mean the time leading up to it must be spent alone. Have a trusted pal come over while you get ready. Ask to chat about all things not date-related to get your mind off the looming meet-up, and those pesky first date jitters. Plus, you can rely on any good friend to pump you up with confidence before you head out the door.
Whether you’re oh-so-zen or just wish you were, the act of meditating can help get you in the right mindset for the date ahead. Think positive thoughts about the date going well, you two clicking and, most importantly, you feeling relaxed. Then, just let your mind go as blank as possible for a few minutes. It’s a good way to slow down those racing thoughts that often plague us right before a date.
4. Scope It Out
Are you one of those people who feels better if you can visualize the date beforehand? Check out your date spot in advance to get a feel for what it’s like. If you’re going to a restaurant, scan the menu so there are no surprises. You can even find out where the bathrooms are. Feeling comfortable in the space where you’re meeting will minimize the things you need to worry about on date night, and help dissolve the jitters.
5. Make Plans After
If you’re anxious about how the date is going to go, set a time limit. Make plans to do something at specific time following the date. That way, there isn’t that awkward “should we wrap things up” feeling towards the end. Plus, it leaves a little to be desired if the date went well; if there’s more you wanted to talk about, you’ll be quicker to schedule that second date.
With a little practice, you’ll be able to look forward to your first dates with lots of anticipation rather than a hint of dread. Be the confident Jdater we know you can be by using these handy tips for tackling first date jitters.