What NOT to do after you’ve met someone you really like:
1. Add them on Facebook and proceed to read every single post and dissect every single photo and read through the names of every single friend and then refer to things in the profile that you only know because of Facebook (most people do this, admit it)!
2. Send spies to their workplace (more people than one would think actually do this, especially when the person works in the service industry).
3. Sneak into their apartment and makeover the entire bedroom and bathroom in your favorite colors (true story).
4. Reroute your entire daily commute in order to possibly run into him or her (another one you can all admit to doing).
5. Hang out at their favorite coffee shop all day waiting for them to come in for their daily latte (just ‘fess up here people!).
So here’s my take: When you get excited about someone new, it’s normal to want to intersect your lives. And, doing one of the above is not such a huge thing, but doing all of them is definitely an indication that you have entered stalker-dom. If you have to call your new beau’s roommate to gain access to the apartment — and if you find yourself filling up on gas more than usual because of all the out-of-the-way-driving you’re doing — and if you are hiding some of your friends because they pretended to be “customers,” then you are officially a stalker and need to reassess your dating style.
Also, if someone is doing more than one of the above actions to you, then run (and run fast) in the opposite direction! Go on now.
Tamar Caspi is a contributor to JDATE. See more of Tamar Caspi's articles here.
