Deborah and Dan: "I realized I was going to spend the rest of my life with this person"

One day, I just realized I was going to spend the rest of my life with this person.

Jdate Success Couple Deborah and Dan in a pumpkin patch

Tell Us a Little About Your Story

I had been on Jdate for about a year and was really not having much luck. If I kept the location radius within 20 or so miles of me, there were too many familiar faces – people I went to High School or College with, or did some kind of youth program with. I widened the radius and went out with a few guys, but I was feeling pretty defeated with Jdate by the time I met Dan.

He sent me a message. A lot of things about his profile intrigued me. His profile picture was of him catching a really large (sword?) fish, and I thought that was fun.

Jdate Success Couple Deborah and Dan by a river

How did you two meet?

Somewhere in his information, he mentioned that he was “previously married” and to inquire about that if curious. I was so curious! On our first date, I sat right down and said, “so, are you a widower?” I’m sure he was pretty shocked about how blunt I was. Turns out, he is not a widower. His first wife came out of the closet not long after they were married. Upon hearing this I exclaimed “Oh my gosh! You’re Ross!”. He had no idea what I meant, and naturally this lead to us watching all ten seasons of Friends together (not all in one night). I have never laughed so much in my life. I don’t think either of us realized how funny we both are until we met each other, or, maybe we are just funny to each-other, haha.

We stayed on the site for a week or two, and then met in person. We both felt it was a waste of time to communicate any longer without seeing if there was an in-person spark.

Jdate Success Couple Deborah and Dan at their wedding

What was your first date like? Give us all the details!

Our first date was at Not Your Average Joe’s, home of the incredible focaccia bread. Dan told me he didn’t eat bread, and being from the house of carbs (my mother’s house) I immediately questioned what I was doing here with this man who didn’t eat this deliciousness. We hit it off, despite the breadtastrophy.

Describe the moment you knew it was true love!

Jdate Success Couple Deborah and Dan kissing on their wedding day

One day, I just realized I was going to spend the rest of my life with this person. It’s a funny feeling – not at all like what you imagine when you’re a kid. Yes, it was emotional, but there was just so much logic mixed in there too. We are great together. We strive for the same things in life and have similar values. While our goals aren’t identical (whose really are, anyway?), we build upon one-another, and his goals help me reach mine, and vice-versa.

Plus, I woke up one day and realized that I had stopped “sweatin’ the small stuff” (which I was famous for). All of a sudden, I was grounded. I knew it was Dan that brought me “back to earth” when I was off flying. (He happens to be very laid back, and while that rubbed off on me, I think I increased his sense of urgency on certain things.)

Jdate Success Couple Deborah and Dan on their wedding day

He did said I love you first. He will tell you every chance he gets though, that I was “chomping at the bit,” and he’s right. Very early in the relationship I had to literally bite my tongue in order to not let those words slip and scare him off!

Here we are three years later, less one carb-free diet, plus about 20 lbs, and a baby on the way. Life is good.


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